Shemini: Do Facts Care About Your Feelings?
Liluei Nishmas Ita bas Chanoch Aharon Bistritzky
In this week's Torah portion, an intriguing debate unfolds between Moshe and his brother, Aaron Hakohen. The context of this dispute revolves around Aaron and his sons mourning the loss of Nadav and Avihu, who, as the two oldest of Aaron's four sons, tragically perished on the day of the Mishkan's inauguration for offering an unauthorized sacrifice. Despite their mourning, which usually renders a Kohen unable to partake in eating the meat of the sacrifices, Moshe nevertheless instructs Aaron and his sons, the Kohanim, to partake in the sacrifices of that day, as a unique exception to the rule due to the specialty of the temple being inaugurated that day. However, when Moshe later discovers they only consumed the special sacrifices, he admonishes them for neglecting the ordinary offerings. Aaron defends his sons' actions, asserting that Moshe's instructions pertained only to the special sacrifices.
Moshe, embodying truth, initially saw no distinction between the two types of sacrifices, believing holiness to be unchanging and consistent. In contrast, Aaron, representing kindness, acknowledges the contextual differences and varying needs of different times and generations. He argues that while the special sacrifices hold significance in the present, not all sacrifices should be treated identically.
This debate reflects a broader philosophical tension between truth and kindness. Truth, as exemplified by Moshe, is immutable and absolute. It adheres to principles without regard for individual circumstances or generational shifts. On the other hand, kindness, personified by Aaron, is adaptive and considerate of context. It recognizes the unique needs of each situation and adjusts accordingly.
We often grapple with this dichotomy in our own lives. We may strive to uphold truth and ideals unwaveringly, yet confront the reality that others may not perceive them in the same light. However, as Moshe eventually acknowledges, there is wisdom in recognizing and accommodating generational differences. Adapting the language of truth to resonate with contemporary sensibilities does not compromise its essence but allows it to remain relevant and accessible.
Ultimately, the harmony between truth and kindness lies in their recognition of the divine presence in every individual and circumstance. Just as Hashem is omnipresent, so too can truth be found in diverse expressions and interpretations. Embracing this understanding allows us to navigate the complexities of life with integrity and compassion, ensuring that our actions reflect both the steadfastness of truth and the empathy of kindness.
Adapted from “Life Talks on the Parsha”